Friday, January 29, 2010

The Gender Bias

After Marriage

The man doesn't have to leave his family after tying the knot....and if he does its considered to be a crime
While the girl belongs to the boys family and she just has to forget where she came from 

The man has the same duties ...of looking after ONLY his schedule ...and delegating most of the personal chores to the rest of the family
While the girl has to modify and fit in to the new family's routine....given a 3 months probation time....but immediate compatibility to environment would give you some extra points

The man's schedule.....Will you be coming for for lunch?...not sure....Are you working late?...I don't know
Do you want lunch ? ...yes but may be not....Are you going to office???? ...Might....!!!!!
while the girl has to submit a clear schedule with time and place where she will be available at...and must follow it too

The man's family is always right and takes
While the woman's family is always wrong and gives

The man is called the perfect husband
The woman is called the useless wife

After Child

The man can just walk out of the house shouting " I'll be back"
While the girl has to plan ...plan and plan before she can move 1 km away from home to buy some veggies for the family

The man wakes up, reads paper, wants his tea and drops baby at school because the wife is so dumb that she can't drive
The women has to wake up, cook breakfast,dress child, feed child, put clothes in washing machine, make tea, send baby to school.

The man is always busy
The woman always has to make time for everything

The man is called the doting father
The woman is called the dumb mother

PS: If I think I could write a book on this topic... I know there are exceptions....but the fact still remains ....that they are only exceptions.....:)

Tuesday, January 19, 2010

The Past and the Future

2009....A very uneventful year in all quarters. Personally and Professionally I didn't see any major change.

On the Personal Front

There was more of worry rather than joy.With loved ones falling sick. In and out of hospital.My visits to the dentist ( which continue this year boooo hoooo!). Am totally fed up living an unsettled life...shuttling between homes. The flat is still unfurnished and cluttered. The the initial months did have a lot of travel the whole family enjoyed. Then there was Achu's little acheivements that brought in those moments of joy to make the year not so bad afterall.

On the Professional Front

The personal failures have tainted my professional dreams. YES that is the excuse I have and I stick with it. There is not an atom of enthusiasm. I want to improve, study and lazy and fuzzy and slightly dizzy ....

This year is not going to see me make any NEW resolutions
The old ones are crying for help....

2010 here I come .......

Ps. My Strength : GOD .....I am blessed and I can tell that a zillion times.

Wednesday, January 6, 2010

My Pets and Me

This blog started off as a comment and became too long and so was promoted to a blog. And this is the blog that inspired me :)

- had a dog Benji when I was in school . He was a silky terrier. A cute little pup. I used to play with him cuddle him , teach him tricks and do everything that didn't come under the term 'dirty work'... together or seperate....Amma did that.....One Sunday when the whole family was back after a little outing  we found we lost Benji......Lost and not to be found.......
- Then I had cats..though they couldn't fill the gap benji left...loved them too...a dozen of them in my backyard....they visit me only for dinner though....Tom cats, pregnant cats, soon to be pregnant cats and lots of kittens in all sizes....I was breeding cats...We would have the cat choir every night....and then I got married...Amma fed them for a few months .when she ignored them they would steal.....then she found ways to send them away ...marry them off :D

- Then I had one cat I called my pet...its been 14yrs and she's still with me but with Achu's has changed for me and my cat :)

-  A few more years and Achu might just want a pet for himself....and as the circle of life should go on....I might land up with the dirty-work...together or seperate
- So long as its not a spider,lizard,snake or a scorpion or anything creepy or crawly......:b

Monday, January 4, 2010

Delhi - Do I Miss you?

M and I were to fly to Delhi on the 2nd of January 2010...But the flight got cancelled because of the fog in Delhi and my trip to delhi stands cancelled.....

Am Happy we didn't fly because
  • My Achu didn't want me to go. Though he was excited he was to get a train set when I get back...yeah call it the bait to make up for my absence
  • My Amma who is just recovering from a leg injury consented 100% with energy levels of barely 15% to look after Achu jus because she didn't want her daughter to miss going on a official trip... I love you Amma...:)
  • My Achu singing the welcome song for Granparents day at school and so I have a few days extra to get his costume ready
  • My teeth which needs attention as early as possible....and the monster is getting all hungry yet again...baaahhhhh
  •  My group of friends are organising an event and I am involved in it ..this means I can give in some more time into it
  • My BIL is getting married early next more week added to my I-can-shop-till-I-drop days
  • My work will find some completions finally ..since my presence will surely make things work faster
  • My flat can be beautified at ease....though the painting is postponed to next week
  • My body and mind are glad they didn't have to fight the Delhi cold
Am sad we didn't fly because
  • I wanted to do the job we were to be there for...very badly
  • I don't know where else to use the thermals I bought
  • I don't know what the on-flight movie was...I miss watching that :b
  • I wanted to know what Delhi @its coldest was like
PS. Hope to make full use of the time I gained in Chennai this week...... and my time starts now :)