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Last Minute

Last minute studying Last minute packing Last minute shopping Last minute filing Last minutes are the minutes that actual matter to me December will be done in another 15 days!!!!!! Then we have a New Year ... Quick .....No time to lose The things that I am doing Need to be done. PS. My mind speaks thus.....ever heard of year-end resolutions?

Gifted

Here are few things M gifted me that are lying in some safe corner of our multidimensional home.... Camera: The major attraction being the PINK cover -  I have a Nokia 5MP camera phone then why do I need to carry another camera around? Laptop: While I wanted a small handy one he got me a mega sized monster with all the multimedia stuff. He was upset I complained and sold the Dino. Ipod: I like it but am not gizmo enough to use it. Load it and give me and I will use it. I hate the whole process of charging and downloading stuff. Pearl Sets: They have found their second home in my closet which is better than their old fashioned oyster home.Haven't really found 'that' occasion to disturb them.    Salwar suit materials from Jaipur and the likes - I stitch stuff only when I have a function or a trip coming up in the next 24 hrs. The materials he got me range from the 'I-dont-like' shades to the 'kewl' shades so I am either disinterested to stitch it or jitte

Worthless

I am worthless I know. I am lethargic to change. The heart wants to make a difference each day. The mind quivers and pains. Around me The Efficient live. I admire and unfazzled I remain. With doors many open I shut my eyes tight.........! Ps. Worthless me....Forgive me Lord for I am wasting the gifts....forgive me!

The TV, Movies & Me

Of late I have been catching up with a few shows and old/new movies...on TV and at the mall I hate Luv Storys : No I don't :)...I actually love mushy movies with a tint of comedy. This one was ok. Imran is cute. As an actor ?...well this movie didn't require much on that front. Sonam Kapoor has got a very open smile...don't know if its fake but it good :D. The story is about a girl who is 'Girly' and a boy who is 'Boyish' and how they ...ahem! fall in love..what else did u expect? Rating: 2/5 Wake up Sid : Same as above...Discovered that Ranbir can actual act! This story had something more than just a love story. A few tit bits about how easy the present generation (who have their fathers/mothers purse) looks at life, lack of discipline, lack of interest/confidence towards finding your true calling, friends, parents. I liked it. Konkana as the independent and patient friend turned lover is a terrific actor. Rating: 3/5 Om Shanti Om : Am not gonna t

An Update

Amma finished her sabari mala trip and is back with a very bad flu. The trip went on well and she had a very good darshan. While amma was away I had to 'manage' the house. Its not that easy when it includes managing 3 brats ( Acha, M and Achu) who don't have any intersections I could take advantage of. I didn't do very well but I 'managed' to live through...yes they did too. Acha had his normal medical check up. The results are yet to come. Slightly worried with what the Doc is going to say. Prayers. M left to Jaipur today. He should be back in two days.The roads seem smooth and we are making total use of the very little times we agree on things....watching movies,visiting malls, shopping, hunting for flats, test driving, planning holidays....Its been good for the 2 of us. Achu actually loves it when am around.This guy doesn't show how much he misses me when am not there.I bunked office for a couple of days last week as amma was away and found out.  He t

Life ?

This is not a happy blog....2 days and I have heard of 3 souls who have departed Sri Thulasi - He managed our family temple in Trivandrum  Thozhuvankode Sri Chamundi Devi Temple for more than 35 years. He is behind the temple's disciplined growth.He still will. Early yester morning he went to pray. He fell at the feet of Devi and passed away. Suresh - He is an AC mechanic. A very hard worker and would come to office and home every now and then to assemble a new AC ,service the ones we have or to answer a complaint. Everytime we had a 'AC related anything' it would be " Suresh-e kupidhungo" ( Call Suresh ). Just met him 2 weeks back at office while he was servicing and had requested him to come home to fix an AC in Achu's room.Now whose going to do that! :( M's Relative - I had met her in Trivandrum some 6 years back. Just once. A very warm person. She has left us too. All so sudden ...too sudden Some people you meet often ...some you don't So

The Solitude Bandit

Being a single child Isolation in life went wild Slowly I evolved to love it Today am a solitude bandit To get that little time I strive and whine While its war at work To-dos at home lurk Company I surely need But my space a bit more indeed Loaded with overlapping tasks I must adorn multiple masks Lost am I in my own busy world With people and thoughts distinctively blurred Today loneliness is a myth Meet me, the Solitude Bandit PS. No this is not the poem I mentioned about in my last post . This one just popped out when a friend of mine wrote about wanting company....and I wrote "Here's my version of  not having ,then having and then wanting to not have any company. But I guess there needs to be a balance. While you need a 'with ppl' break I just need a 'without ppl' break :)  

Search Warrant

"Search and you will find Something good in every kind" Me penned down those lines a decade ago when a random id friend on chat asked me how I could be silent when slashed at and respond in a positive note over a sour incident ( oh don't even bother to ask ...what happens when you morph a hypersenstive ego boosted attention seeking id with a inteligent conversation?...a syn(c)tax error :)...it doesn't work plus you have a ammonia filled chatroom! ). It didn't mean much...much it got me thinking. If you feel anything negative about a person always try to find the many/few things you like about him/her and loving the person will not be tuff anymore. It works. Try it.   Its my turn today. Acha: He is hard working, filled with love,doesn't care of what people talk about him, continues to do good to every person he can afford to help even if the person doesn't deserve it. His faith in God supreme. He is Mr.Postive. Amma: Selfless *full stop* M: This

Light up and Lighten Up

The preparations for the festival of lights fills up every corner with excitement... The Outside - Clients come in with sweet boxes rather than the usual IT letters and everybody has the 'holiday' mood attitude at work - every street has a cracker shop where you witness pre teen boys accompanied by their grandpas or pas scrambling through the colourful covers to find 'the' fireworks for the season both parties equally excited and teens loitering around and getting hold of the 'fancy and fierce works' to show off their skills at the community celebration - its the season lighten your purse as well with offers innumerable...its the right time to get that LCD you wanted to watch Super singer on or the Smartphone you wanted to twitter on. Clothes in all textures and colours outline shops and eateries have never been so enticing with a kg of warm melting mysore pak free for a kg of anything else you get ..no there are no deductions allowed on the kgs you gain -

How do I look ?

As a five year old..... - Dressy ? Yes. Because my mom force-dressed me for every occasion with pinks,lace,frills and all that's girly. - Did I look like a girl after all the effort? No. - Who influenced me? My brothers. So I was generaly tagging along wherever my cousin brothers went and did. Be it walking in mud, climbing trees, finding tadpoles and earthworms, being dirt itself  I religiously followed. And amma used to tell me I even started looking ( what is the opposite of biologically evolved ?) like one of them As a 10 year old... - Enlightened yet? Not really but the first signs of womenhood did surface. I was keen on how I behaved. Yeah the girly giggles and social networks (on a class to class basis) did begin. But still I wasn't the girl you would imagine. - Looks? Didn't matter still. Wasn't really consious of the way I looked - bugs bunny teeth et all! - Influences....Friends, mother and my cousins As a 15 year old... - What the story? The girl c

The Hunt for a Home

We still haven't got ourselves a decent place to call 'our' home...because I believe that M's house is 'his' home ...My house is 'my' home ...and Our House is 'our' home...and while a house in the middle of Chennai is quite unimaginable to get hold ..we have been in the look out for a decent apartment...in vain sighhhhhh! Definition of Decent ( Things we cannot compromise on) : 1. Rent within our budget - why are budgets and rates inverse always! 2. A seemingly spacious layout - Get in some sunlight builders and chuck the dingy corridors. 3. Vasthu Compliant - gotya there didn't I :) 4.  No Water Shortage - that's a necessity na. 5. Not on the highest floor and GF or first is best or second is there's a third....The summers of chennai last a year and  if we are outta power its a pain to get grocery and water up...I don't wanna exercise those thin ( I hear thunder) thighs of mine and neither M's f(l)at tummy :D 6. Parki

Aroma

You didn't tag me art but I just wanted to blog on .....What are the (non- perfume/ non-cosmetics) smells you like? - Petrol....why I wonder - Mannvasanai ....during the first showers - Paint..not too strong though - Tulsi leaves and shambrani...divinity derived - Coffee....never fails to make me happy - Lemon/Earlgrey/Masala tea....am all perky and fresh after this drink - Fresh powdered babies ....a treat :D - Betel leaf...when crushed its got a very pungent end to it - Steam from the Iron while pressing clothes...some pleasure during the toil - Biriyani ...the spices.....basically anything to do with food...:b PS. Can keep adding to that list...its nice to just think about the things you like ...very relaxing :)

I am Happy today...

because.... Acha had his follow up with his doctor today and things are FINE. Yipeeeeeeee! He is doing good. A Big Relief. Yesterday I had a wonderful evening with friends ( U, S and B) at U's Golu. Achu also had a gala time with N and M. On the work front deadlines have no meaning since we are done with all the files that needed attention. Have to get the office ready for Pooja. Its exciting to plan and execute something otherthan work, at office. God is watching over me :) Ps. Like I said today is beautiful...I am relishing each moment ...I am grateful to alot of family and friends...for there is nothing more peaceful than having a hand to hold and a shoulder to lean :)   

Some Juncture this is !

Festivity vs Turbulence Faith vs Doubt Commitment vs Lethargy Life is all about twos..... At every point of time you are either there or here.... From a broader time perspective ...you are always somewhere in the middle! But its the moment that matters That gives you the joy That gives you the hit Then time stabilises Ps. The 'you' here is me...the positives and negatives of life are getting me all confused and cluttered...will sort...give me the time....heart and mind....!   

Waiting for October

There are things happening in September.... And am making them happen A few of the To-dos will vanish Though I wish all of them would October I pray will be A new beginning Ps. Will let out all that is september ...jus wait for a couple of days ok :)

Life Is Crazy and I love it that way.....

Maybe I 've blogged about this before...but felt like doing it again. Was having a conversation with S and she triggered a sentence out of me which I loved so much because it was completely true. In a few moments my status msg on FB and Orkut was updated.....It read " Life is crazy and so are most of the ppl in it...BUT Count your blessings... Atleast you r Alive and Living !" How is life crazy? My Acha is still recovering but wants to work for the whole day. For the past few days all of us have been trying to dissuade him from coming in the afternoons. But he has won the battle and only breaks for a couple of hours for lunch..crazy workaholic  My Amma is crazy but she HAS to be because she has a zillion things to do in the given 24hrs...yup she is at home...but Home is where the work is !!!! Do I help? No ...I help by not getting into her way while she's at it ( if she ever gets to read this I'm doomed :)...) My M is crazy because I make him crazy. Wait ..

Do I see Light ?

After the volcano ...it was dark....but then slowly I could see light...and I was happy But now I wonder if it was the light that represented a fresh beginning Or the light of molten lava still reminding me that the fire is still burning deep inside...... Whatever it is I am taking it positive And working towards a solution Choices I have....None! Ps. U pray for all the confusion to settle....and then work for it...hard with all your heart...then am sure God is gonna give me the helping hand.......

The Mind thinks.....

Positives The volcano errupted and the lava is still hot ....but I know soon things will cool down...for the better or for the worse I know not...but atleast the heat is out! At work things are getting completed.. Acha is back in action....God Bless Negatives To know that some things are irreversible in life....hurts..... Yet to work on my resolutions and half a year jus vanished before my eyes! Being organised is still a dream PS. There is God...There is Time...and so I walk....

August Presence

It isn't getting any better..... Life is still a rush..... Close relatives kept the air at home fresh and lively....if not for Achu's doings their absence would have been felt this week..... I am blessed it isn't getting worse....and am praying strong it gets better each day Though each night I go to sleep with a thousand questions in mind....I sleep. Though I wake up with no good answers every morning....I wake. Time heals....Time heals....Time heals.... But then does silence heal too? I don't think so....the problems don't vanish when given the silent treatment....they don't...they never have.. I thought it did and stayed silent ...and today I face a mountain of silent qualms.. I blame myself...I have to work on living past them.....and not to live with them..in silence Only then does time heal..... PS.Project August is to destroy the mountain I created....in a peaceful and amiable way.....prayers to begin with ......

Totally Excited

Am so excited my friend S had her baby yesterday. :):):):):) A normal delivery. A beautiful gal.A bitta blood loss. But hey look at what u gained.Yet another Bundle of Joy. After 9 whole months of listening to what the world has to say to a expecting mother you have a soul that will listen to u :)(only till the age of 16 in our times...but now I guess kids have their own mind right from 2) While S was at hospital Achu,M and I were at the same hospital waiting to meet our doc for Achu's 5 yr vaccine!!! I didn't know she was in the labour ward. Maybe God Wanted me to be there at the same place she was....wish I knew she was there...wish I called....Anyways it's a nice feeling to know I was that close...it truly is....:) Anyways S, A and lil Nandu congratulations and tight hugs... PS. God Bless :)

The Three 'Mottai'keteers

Yesterday we met ...it was quick, unplanned and far from being satisfying. What I call a satisfying meet is the meet we had months ago . This one is just a fill up. The main reason behind it was because P , A and I had our heads tonsured and we wanted to personally see how we looked....individually and together. U had come as well to judge how we looked :) I had my mottai first then came P then A. But on analysing we found A's hair had grown faster than the two of us. Next it was about the greys.I had the least ...yipeeee and then there was P and A had the most. My hair is curly so even the little grey I have didn't show. While the other two had straight hair and the greys popped out here and there. Then it was the weight gain. A told me I had reduced considerably. While P refused to accept the fact( yeah! the fact ). After which it was my hands which seemed darker than the rest of my body. It seems my hands look like that of an old lady ( no this is NOT a fact). I thoug

It jus takes a second...

...for Life to turn topsy turvy :( June brought in too much of news. And today am not the same person I was one month ago. Life isn't complete and peaceful as it used to be. My dear father had a surgery and is still recovering. It pains to see, the strong man who held my hand when I took my first steps,all frail and tired. God is my only way. And I surrender..... PS.In life's hardships you learn and mature....but I would have preferred to have matured in a happier way....maybe I took life too easy...maybe am the one who faltered....sigh.

Sometimes...

...things just go blank. I am in one of those phases where I stand totally helpless I hate where I am now. God my only Refuge...... God please get things back to being normal...please.

Anniversaries galore

This month.... My SIL's Inlaws celebrated their 50th anniversary...we had great fun at the party. My Inlaws celebrated their 43rd anniversary...it was a family get together at a hotel for lunch. My Parents celebrate their 35th wedding anniversary this sunday.... I did have plans to give them a good relaxing holiday but God had other plans..... My Acha fell ill this Monday and is advised bed rest for the next 15 days :( So this is what I did I rented out a few DVD's of good Malayalam movies and took it home yesterday ...told them it was meant to be a surprise but thought of checking the DVD player which was dormant all its life and just as I thought the player had picture but no color or sound....So today I went to a service center and fixed it.Now they can start celebrating 2 days in advance :) And we have earthquakes happening off and on in our seventh year of togetherness....M and I have a very very long way to go......God you have a lot of homework to do :)

On a Summer Holiday

We're all going on a summer holiday. No more working for a week or two. Fun and laughter on a summer holiday. No more worries for me and you. For a week or two. We're going where the sun shines brightly. We're going where the sea is blue. We've seen it in the movies. Now let's see if it's true. Everybody has a summer holiday Doing things they always wanted to. So we're going on a summer holiday To make our dreams come true For me and you. We're going where the sun shines brightly. We're going where the sea is blue. We've seen it in the movies. Now let's see if it's true. Everybody has a summer holiday Doing things they always wanted to. So we're going on a summer holiday To make our dreams come true For me and you. Hmmmmmm, hmmmmmmm... Hmmmmmm, hmmmmmmm... Hmmmmmm, hmmmmmmm... PS. Had a lovely vacation for 2 weeks.....the first week at trivandrum and the second week at kumarakom and thekkady....the above

A Cuppa Tea

Can a woman...yes I said A woman get up from her office seat, walk down the stairs, cross the road, to the bunk kadai (the small tea stall) and drink a cuppa tea with a biscuit without being stared at?????????? No. I didn't try....and I don't have the guts to...but love to do that. Maybe at a restaurant or a cafe it would be fine ...now that's a slight relief ...since 10 years ago even that wouldn't  go unnoticed..... PS. The pains of being a South Indian Woman?

And the Religion is Faith

Nivi needed to know if it is possible for a person to belong to no particular religion ....and a blog is born Direct Answer : NO .To fit into the Indian System you need A religion ...that means everytime there is a column on any paper stating Religion....there can only be one!!!! "Computer won't accept 2 or 3 madam" YES. When it comes to your personal need for a religion...its what you believe that counts....and you believe in what works right?...so out of the 4,200 religions pick any or all or just mix and match or create your own or pick none The ppl I love and religion Acha : The most religious man I have had personal contact with. He is a staunch believer of rituals. Does his pooja at dawn and dusk. His idea of a relaxing holiday would be to visit temples. The basic line he repeats is "do your duty and leave the rest to God" and "act according to natural justice and there lies the apt solution to every problem." Amma: She is religious but

Bald and beautiful??

Like I mentioned in my one of my previous blogs ...K,N and Lil L and our family had a trip to tirupathi for my long overdue mottai. yes am all bald and feeling slightly funny this time round..Lil L had her head tonsured as well... Advantages of not having the locks When u have a bath :The first mugs of water are sooooo refreshing since it hits the scalp d i r e c t :) Dressing time saved by 15 minutes....includes the time to dry hair , comb, dry again, comb, comb till the fourteenth minute and then plait it at jet speed No hair on the brush or comb results in a  happy M No hair products on the shelf  It feels light always ...no sweaty neck and shoulder this summer A few compliments on my new look...hey I got one from my amma now that's gotta be true alright...truly pacifying atleast   Random kisses on the head from Achu ( huggy buggy ) Disadvantages have to go around with a scarf over the head until the scalp looses its bare look.....and in summer its bad...nope I don

The Personal Monster IV

When she called me in, every heart except mine sounded normal....mine was thumping ...I bet Sivamani couldn't have done a better job at his drums... dizzy dizzy dizzy.....thump thump.... Went in all alone....asked for M and was told he is having his teeth beautified ...baaahhhhhh...snifff snifff.....Doc asked me to sit down and she explained the process ...she told me she will work on my left molar and do the right on another day....It would have been better if she jus let me go.....or knew a bit of magic.... She made me sit  and I couldn't brilliantly camouflaged the tears with a dust-in-the-eye trick  for long... I heard my self sob out loud  and I spotted a very hazy version of my Doc walk towards me ....with a serene smile ...I heard an "Are you ready Gayatri?"....What if I said No...will she let me go?.... And then she pricked me ....amidst uncontrollable out pours through both my visual mediums I let out screams ,pulls and pushes...is this the ying yang

The Stars across the Horizon

Simbu : Looks clean and well dressed. His restricted facial expressions and dialogue delivery resembled Kamalahasan. Good dancing since he consciously restrained himself from having 'that' expression he usually has when he dances. Trisha :  Pretty .The costumes were fresh...with a predominance of the starched,pinned cotton saree look...on a positive note...I have this strange feeling its going to get a good sum of gals to try their hand on tying the saree rather than the usual salwar kameez. Acting wise trisha is a natural and the role requires jus that. Ganesh ( Simbu's Friend): Neat performance. I loved him.Crisp,Calm and Witty. A.R.Rahman:  I didn't have any prelude to the songs so it didn't create much of an impact in my mind. though the slow part in 'Hosanna' and 'Omana Penne' did want me to listen to the songs again. With A R Rehman the problem is that you tend to like his music only when u keep listening to them again and again..

The Movie Buff in me

Excitement reaches unforeseen heights each time I book tickets for a movie....I love watching movies...and its more fun when its in a dark room with blaring sound AND eats unlimited. What I like 3 hrs of disconnection from the outer world into the world of fantasy usually get to the theater early but sometimes (mostly) we wade thru dark shadows - our mobile lites the only aid I remember the documentaries that used to be shown before the movie starts....patriotic ones...then there were these jewelery ads and saree ads..... buttered popcorn,puff,cake,coke,coffee, the ice cream cones with watery vanilla and anything worth munching and gulping down without bating an eyelid the executive sofa @ sangam ...cosy :)....( seemed quite low the last time round...excess wear and tear?) the 'side' comments from the 'fronters' and whistles that welcome heroes and heroines with equal vigor...no 33% here I should say:b happy, comic, full of love, colors and light..in english,h

What rules the mind right now?

Everything is a rush....the day is slow but it is restless....my mind always blurts out 'What next?' ....I am slow ...I am blank....My mind lacks direction..I keep mumbling.... .get angry very fast....and I don't know why but I keep telling 'Yendhu cheyan?' ( what to do?) for no reason at all!!!!!!..but if I have to list out the things I want to do.... Holiday with my family or atleast with my lil fella Meet up with friends  Wake up at 10.00 am and still have nothing to do Have long uninterrupted conversations with friends  Declutter.... not out of interest but purely out of need Ps. Not that I am overworked....A sense of void has taken over me for quite sometime now....I lack the drive and seem pretty lost in this little world of mine

Fight For Fair Freedom

Universally loved is freedom The urge to be free natural Cage thoughts or actions and Creatures always weep If there is Life There must be freedom If there is a right It must be safe Species irrelevant Gender immaterial You need your space and I need mine The sixth sense is human Hence enlightened Never to misuse liberty And to play by the rules If the system Hurts you And Conscience calls you right Fight for your freedom Fight,Fight,Fight.....

Ka- chang!

In life one of the relationships I value the most is the one I share with my friends....God Bless I have bountiful beautiful people as friends... I always find the time to meet up with friends for a very selfish motive.....yes the most effective way to de-stress and detox is to have a long chat with friends ....and if over food...it doubles the effect :b This time round it was C ( With 4 bundles of joy in all sizes to her credit , a perfect homemaker and still looks Sweet 16) who intiated the urge to meet. And then the communication lines didn't stop until U, P, A and I finally decided to meet at T.Nagar. Where at T.Nagar should the lot meet?....P gave a suggestion....Pelita Nasi Kadar...yup I googled out the name just now....It was a Malaysian retaurant....and since the location was pretty much ok with the rest of the gangs pre and post commitments...which included my visit with the personal monster to remove the stitches... All of us reached the venue from different direc

An urge to Create

 I used the promotion tool on orkut to promote PEACE AND TOLERANCE The need of the hour : ) Let there be peace and let it begin right from our homes. . . . Let there be tolerance and let it begin right from our minds. . . . These two lines were written by me.... When?...probably after a fight with M :) All creators create best when they have had an experience in their own lives Maybe imagination does play a part....But how much can one imagine I felt those lines when I typed them..... PS. I am sure every story written has a bit of the authors life in it....either simplified or magnified :)

Amma and Acha - Comeback Fast

Amma and Acha are going to Guruvayur today.They won't be here until thursday Morn. Four whole days without them means I have to do ALOT of things on my own. Wish I could go with them but I can't get into any temple for the next 5 days ...baaaah.... Sunday will breeze away with a visit to M's place and a bit of grocery shopping for the next 2 days :) When Amma is here I only need to worry about the breakfast. But now I will have to plan for lunch and dinner as well.....hmmmm Now this is what I have in mind                    Monday (15)           Tuesday (16)                   Wednesday (17)                      Breakfast     Dosa & Sambhar     Semiya Upma                 Idili & Tomato                                                                                              Chutney Lunch          Rice, Dhal, Carrot    Rice, Rasam,Potato                                                      Poriyal                      & Capsicum                

Memories of School

Those long corridors The morning bell Wednesday prayers Gossiping and passing notes Sudden tests which never happened Discussing first crushes over Lunchboxes with yummy food I yearn to live that carefree life yet again But Alas....Its a memory And a memory it will remain Yet am glad i have a handful of u To prove to my present The much cherished past I have been thru Love and Miss you all As I browsed through my friends list i found a few of my school friends among them....I drifted into that age when I had no other worries than the Annual Exam....how simple life was... I immediately sent this poem to all my school friends with whom i have spent almost 12 years of my life and whose friendship I will treasure forever...I belong to lucky few who have managed to fish out my mates from the different worlds they now belong to..... We had one reunion last year and it was wonderful....the feeling of being with people who have shared those happy days is so different ....it

My Manoharan Valiachan

Sometimes I feel Its good I wasn't there for his funeral.Its really tuff to look at an otherwise active mind and body , all stiff and lifeless. Am glad I didn't get to see him like that. Now all I feel is that he is still amidst us. My manuvallliachan is a strong man. He is a workaholic. And being in the government service he never ever takes advantage of his position and didn't like others making use of his name too. He doesn't utilise the previleges offered to the positions he holds and being so principled earned him great respect and love from seniors juniors and counterparts. He loves to read. He loves action movies. He enjoys conversations and knows to make them enjoyable as well. To his children he is a strict and conservative father and always is blamed for being so. But today the children reap the the respect this wonderful father sowed. All the three of them are good human beings and are so because my valliachan is the father he is. What matters most in l

The Gender Bias

After Marriage The man doesn't have to leave his family after tying the knot....and if he does its considered to be a crime While the girl belongs to the boys family and she just has to forget where she came from  The man has the same duties ...of looking after ONLY his schedule ...and delegating most of the personal chores to the rest of the family While the girl has to modify and fit in to the new family's routine....given a 3 months probation time....but immediate compatibility to environment would give you some extra points The man's schedule.....Will you be coming for for lunch?...not sure....Are you working late?...I don't know Do you want lunch ? ...yes but may be not....Are you going to office???? ...Might....!!!!! while the girl has to submit a clear schedule with time and place where she will be available at...and must follow it too The man's family is always right and takes While the woman's family is always wrong and gives The man is c

The Past and the Future

2009....A very uneventful year in all quarters. Personally and Professionally I didn't see any major change. On the Personal Front There was more of worry rather than joy.With loved ones falling sick. In and out of hospital.My visits to the dentist ( which continue this year boooo hoooo!). Am totally fed up living an unsettled life...shuttling between homes. The flat is still unfurnished and cluttered. The the initial months did have a lot of travel the whole family enjoyed. Then there was Achu's little acheivements that brought in those moments of joy to make the year not so bad afterall. On the Professional Front The personal failures have tainted my professional dreams. YES that is the excuse I have and I stick with it. There is not an atom of enthusiasm. I want to improve, study and grow....but....am lazy and fuzzy and slightly dizzy .... This year is not going to see me make any NEW resolutions The old ones are crying for help.... 2010 here I come ....... P

My Pets and Me

This blog started off as a comment and became too long and so was promoted to a blog. And this is the blog that inspired me :) Past - had a dog Benji when I was in school . He was a silky terrier. A cute little pup. I used to play with him cuddle him , teach him tricks and do everything that didn't come under the term 'dirty work'... together or seperate....Amma did that.....One Sunday when the whole family was back after a little outing  we found we lost Benji......Lost and not to be found....... - Then I had cats..though they couldn't fill the gap benji left...loved them too...a dozen of them in my backyard....they visit me only for dinner though....Tom cats, pregnant cats, soon to be pregnant cats and lots of kittens in all sizes....I was breeding cats...We would have the cat choir every night....and then I got married...Amma fed them for a few months .when she ignored them they would steal.....then she found ways to send them away ...marry them off :D Presen

Delhi - Do I Miss you?

M and I were to fly to Delhi on the 2nd of January 2010...But the flight got cancelled because of the fog in Delhi and my trip to delhi stands cancelled..... Am Happy we didn't fly because My Achu didn't want me to go. Though he was excited he was to get a train set when I get back...yeah call it the bait to make up for my absence My Amma who is just recovering from a leg injury consented 100% with energy levels of barely 15% to look after Achu jus because she didn't want her daughter to miss going on a official trip... I love you Amma...:) My Achu singing the welcome song for Granparents day at school and so I have a few days extra to get his costume ready My teeth which needs attention as early as possible....and the monster is getting all hungry yet again...baaahhhhh  My group of friends are organising an event and I am involved in it ..this means I can give in some more time into it My BIL is getting married early next month...one more week added to my I-can-sh