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By Hook or Crook

.....I NEED A COOK I am wondering how to get hold of a cook.... I tried getting one from an agency but they seem to be very expensive and the reviews seem to be bad I tried to get hold of somebody from the neighborhood. No Luck. I tried asking our driver to get hold of someone.He is still searching. What to do???????Let's see if I can get one by the end of this week. I have to. Ps. Dependence roots from the inability to perform or delegate. Ok Ok... or pure laziness. But this is different. Amma is the one who is doing all the cooking and she needs help.  

And the month is over!

- After Acha had his new medicines he seems a bit better.Hoping for the best. - We are still hunting for a cook to ease Amma's tension and tire - M has been traveling all through October. He says he hates it but I know he secretly loves it.I wish I could travel like him. - Am *preparing for an exam. oops! I forgot to add a few more words * 'supposed to be'. I've not touched the books. - Achu has and is busy with school, rain holidays, no rain holidays,diwali holidays,drawing class and playing with his neighbors Ps: It has been one month and I didn't know I hadn't posted a single thing....The month got divided into 4 very busy weeks which in turn were filled with last-minute days......and whoosh! October 2011 gone forever!!!!!

What's been happening?

Acha's reports are not good. Prayers please. We have been given a weeks time to show better results. If they don't turn out good then we have to try other 'side effect' filled doses of medicines :( Amma and I are in search of the perfect cook.Help us! M is just being his normal self.  Achu and I are waiting for his holidays. A long week to go Gopa anna came for a week.Had his interview. Took us for a movie.'Mangatha'.The sum total of all the violence I have seen all through my life plus a bit more equalled the movie!...Not gory though. Would rate it with an ok.The break witnessed us having some pop corn iced tea coffee and coke ( Yeah! considering the eataholic I am this was very meager since I kept myself away from Mayo and the like). For dinner - Gopa anna had some Hot & Sour Soup , M Appam and milk and me some horrible kothu barotta.For desert G and I had yummy Ice creams while M had a glass of mango juice. Missing having a brother or sister :(.....

The Unbalanced Scale

Other Job Better pay Present Job Get to a 9.30am office at 11.00 am make your own deadlines Browse while you work delegate delegate delegate have a week long vacation and still get paid full talk rot about how awfully managed the 30 year old company is attend every minuscule function at any time of the day/week/month/year never do basic work get transport and transport allowance travel in India and overseas with luxurious stay loads of experience in different areas leave office when you want to AND blackmail half yearly that you would be paid ten times (!!!!!!) the salary in any another company and earn a raise (brilliant!) So what's the deal? PS. I had to write this out. Maybe years later the super ego/ immature will hit enlightenment or may be not.......BTW heard about the guy who drops the "I'll divorce" line every time there's a fight?....Strangely they are different chapters of the same book :)

Loneliness

Suddenly I feel all alone A shoulder I seek beside Though amidst a crowd Why do I feel deprived With uncertainties around me I seek just one defined One I can fall back on When the world acts blind Wonder which worldly tie is the most strongest and true For I have felt all the bonding But sadly confident of none So a materialistic life camouflaged with fake smiles and superficiality around This lone soul lives on............

Mixed Fillings

Each day is filled with varied moments...some sweet and some spicy......... I am a suryanamaskar-ist now :). It is so simple and effective. That's what they say. A, my childhood buddy met with an accident a couple of days back. She is my yoga companion as well. She's got a fracture and so the both of us have decided to start after shes ok. Atleast that's what I want to do. She has been forcing me to continue.But I don't want to do it without her.A...you sure are going to get well soon di. My prayers are with you. I miss meeting A terribly :( Went for S's second's birthday. Met up with a bunch of gal friends after a long time. Needed more time to dissect each others lives but hey we did start :) Acha's follow up is coming up again.Tension mounts. Hoping all those levels are favorable ones. Achu has a couple of days off this week and the next. He is growing up to be a whining,exploring,talkative darling...He takes turns in being them one at a time...

Tell me why....

do fathers have to be told to do things while mothers just instinctively do it?...Just give him the medicine I'll pack his lunch...just get him ready while I have my bath...why don't you take him along?....put on his shoes....can you give him a bath?... can you get him to do his homework? are mothers held responsible for everything associated with the child?....You should give him food every hour he is so skinny....why hasn't he had his haircut?...his skin is so rough aren't you rubbing any oil?... do fathers enjoy more 'me' time than mothers???????? does the kid adore his father so much and take the mother for granted?

Whatz Happening

Acha's results weren't very good this time round. All of us are pretty worried. The doc told us to continue the meds for another 20 days and get back to him with the scores. Hoping things turn out good. Amma is still fighting the flu that refuses to leave her. Trying to convince her to go for a master health check up. But there's this phobia our family has towards check ups that is keeping us away from having it done. M is very much in town these days. We flicker,bicker and then snicker....the whole process is getting quicker! There are days when we LOL in togetherness and then there are days when we need to SOS. Achu's health is my major concern. His cold isn't letting go. Have been trying all the home remedies ( Though not too sincerely) and visited the doc but nothing seems to work. He missed school for 2 days this week.  I am in my own world of imperfection. The minute motivation strikes I get all worked up but sadly it lasts for less than a minute.Somewhere

Quick Update

Wow! Its been a month since I got to write on my blog. Nah! Wasn't that busy...just lazy to sum up things that were happening quickly...here's the list Acha's follow up score was good. A big relief to the whole family.:) Amma had her does of colds,coughs and fever. She is still recovering. I got her birthday all wrong. She celebrates her birthday this month.Planning out something special. Yeah! She hates the fuss but then...I need to fuss...It's my birthright :) Achu is a big boy. I barely get to spend any time with him now a days.I get him ready for school. Which happens with conversations at varied decibels and cannot be considered as quality time spent.He's at school from 7.45am-2.30pm.I pick him up, check his lunch box first then check for HW. I get back after my Yoga at 8.00pm. Feed him his dinner while he watches TV or jabbers stuff or cajoles me to play cars. Sit with him to complete his homework.Put him in bed at 9.30-45pm.....Where's the time??????

The Lemons in Life

Appa had a little eye problem. Had a few tests done. Doesn't seem very bad. Needed new glasses.He is still on medication. Hope he gets better soon. He hates having pills you know. Am into yoga now. Totally :). Oh! you guessed it. If am regular its only because I have company A, my school friend comes with me. We are on the beginners 3 month course. A is so flexible and am as stiff as a frozen sausage. But these 5 days of yoga sure has made me a happier person. Remember what happens when gals meet......;b.....But seriously I feel a bit agile you know. Amma needs some good rest. Am planning out a schedule that will ease her routine.She keeps telling me she needs a break. Its high time I do something. Any ideas?...Hey! Its her birthday tomorrow!! Achu's school reopens next week. Have to jot down a menu. Can't imagine getting up sooooo early and sending him to school with snack,lunch et al...Just imagine ...he has to leave by 7.35 am max!!!!!!!..sheeeshhhhh! Ps. Life is th

Of Meets and Bleats

I wanted Achu to go to Swingers for a dance workshop but it didn't work out. So he went for another theatre and dance workshop which started 2 week ago and ended with a cute show yesterday. KK was in town for Chinnu's admission. Acha got her into VIT. So am glad we might have more visits from KK for the next 5 years.   P,U,C and I met up at my place. It was great. The kids came along so it felt good watching them play together.Our chats were restricted to kid-friendly topics. A you missed it darling and we missed you. MIL is sick. She was in hospital for a couple of days. She is recovering. But at a very slow pace. She will need a physiotherapist for a month or two. Had a little trip planned for next week but it got canceled. Poor Achu will not have a trip this summer to jabber about. Its sure summer but we did have a little thunder storm yesterday night and a sweaty power cut to go with it. The search for the best inverter is on. I optimistically blame my stars for what&

Unconditional Love

When I was a child It was easy to love and not expect I was loved all the same When I was a gal It was easy to love but expectations crept in and I was loved all the same When I was a lady It seemed easy to love and to expect -a right There was love all the same Now a woman Its a dream to love and not to expect Where is love ? I ask, in shame. Unconditional Love An oxymoron to me :)

The Assembly

     Shashtri looked out and spotted Durga Devi looking celestial and jubilant in a purple and red silk sari. Her knee length hair was neatly decorated with orange chrysanthemums. Her bindi resembled the setting sun. A very masculine Sreenivas stood next to her. His physique could frighten any being in the vicinity. Then there was the very prosperous Madhanlal who wore gold and diamond rings on all his ten fingers.             Badri in his usual white dhoti kurta and his wife Roopa in a simple silk cotton orange sari with gold border, were there too. They looked disheveled by the 112 km drive they had. undertaken. Natrajan and his friend Vikram in their starched and ironed white shirts with khaki pants were restless for they were already late for school.        Roopa’s desperate eyes fell on Jeevatha in her little pink polka frock, dancing, singing and playing hide and seek between Padma’s sari pleats. The little angel looked at her mother who seemed to be in a trance. She was thirst

Snap goes the Cable

Our power cables snapped at 8.55 pm yesterday. Called the power guys and they inspected the place and found a burnt cable.It was a hot summer's night and we were not very glad to know that our cooling appliances were not gonna work until the next day. Panic followed by expressions and emotions that resembled a family of ants disturbed by a burnt out match Amma: Oh no! What to do let's go to a hotel Acha: Let me call B and find out if anything can be done Me: Let's go to a hotel ...for a change Achu: Amma pediyarikkunu (Am feeling scared) Candles and emergency lamps lit, we created our own fans with Achu's puzzle books, the day's paper and a marriage invitation card. Option 1 Since it was still early we checked a hotel close to our house. Extravagant you call it?....bear necessity I call it...it was boiling...thankfully we didn't have any mosquito friends buzzing into our eardrums. But then hey it was hot and we were bathing in sweat. Acha: Double roo

Of this and that

Went for a seminar at the Institute to gain CPE hours.Glad I went for it. Got a few books from Landmark. Their having a 50% off on a section of books. Have to go and dig a bit more. The heat is rising , power shut downs more often, watermelons and cucumbers on the road, a lot of sweat....Its the summer of 2011 at Chennai Routine : AC room - AC car - AC cabin - AC car - AC shop - AC car - AC room . End of day. Willis I love you :) Have to salute to the ironing man, the construction workers, the factory workers and the many who have to toil in the hot sun. Thank my Amma for standing in the kitchen which equals a furnace and still providing us yummy food.  Ps. Have alot of reading to do.

Time Machine

Early in the morning I heard a car back up tune and it brought back memories. Made in India by Alisha Chinai. Sigh! I still remember getting introduced to Indian Pop with this song. So as I was saying, this sudden flashback has lent me a strong urge to write about the songs that still make me smile or tap my feet.Here's the list not exactly in chronological order Papa Don't Preach by Sharon Prabhakar Lots of songs of  Baba Seghal Apache Indian had a style of his own style... Boom shaka laka , Arranged marriage and Chock there are my favorites Then there was this adorable Falguni Pathak with her Aaj Piya The romance in Aur Ahistha by Pankaj Udas KK had a few good ones...Pal  Mehnaz and her Banungi Mein Miss India  Khaled's DIDI Shaan's Tanha Dil and Dil Kya Kare (remix)...I also remember the song Aisa Hota Hain with his sister Saagarika Euphoria had excellent numbers... well picturised like Ab Na Ja, Maaeri and Doom pichak How could I forget Rag

Venus Calling

My FB Status message today "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus....High time we got back to our own Planets :b"   Totally upset over how men  get to be total %^&* and still get away with it. I haven't been verbal about it but I need to vent Most of the men in my life ... feel they deserve what they get and so are never grateful find it demeaning to request/ask so they only demand never listen but need total attention when they drop a word or move a toe claim to be always right so the other side happens to be always wrong swear that being loud = being right hate shopping with women or claim to hate it   underestimate women...on second thoughts...underestimates everything except self (which stands totally over estimated ) never admit their solutions came from sources other than their grey cells ( unless they want to flatter someone) can't whisper and want the whole world to know they are on the phone are untidy and feel their gender doesn't allo

Bitter - Sweet

Relationships today can be categorized by the way they deal with the money they earn. Gone are the days when the man managed the money and the woman managed the home. The percentage of earning women has risen. That’s where a bitter sweet relationship is born. Its sweet because the inflow is more and bitter because of the complexities it brings with it. How do double income families manage their money? Husband and Wife Situation Spend Save Result 1 Haphazardly Haphazardly In the long run this breeds discontent. 2 A fixed amount given   to spouse who manages all expenses Individually Confusion during higher expenditure months. Savings for the family are left out. 3 Joint account with fixed sums transferred every month out of which both of them spend for the family while individual expenses are done out of their personal accounts Individually for self and out of joint account

Complaining

I am denied the right to complain because.... I have my mother who is doing so much of work from 5.00 am to 12.00 am and doesn't grumble at all!!! I have my father who has been having health issues for the past 2 years and still has his attitude strong in place I have my son who is a totally cranky five year old only when he is hungry or sleepy - otherwise he is an absolute gem  So I am going to compulsively stop complaining look up to the 3 individuals when I am tempted to keep myself constructively occupied Wish me luck :) Ps. Updates of "constructively occupied" will follow :D

The Son

His birth was just a biological event Born with him a thousand emotions inexpressible and ever rising Feeding him With shares his and hers He grew into a charming lad Old enough to graze Her eleven cows It was his birthday And she had added another cow To count to his age As the special supper sumptuously simmered Cows the whole dozen Were back in time cowherd astray That fateful day she lost her dear The line of control he unknowingly crossed   She fought With shadows at blurring heights Talks held Treaties flipped All in vain Each night her pillows wet Each dawn Her wait begun A childless mother a nightmare she refused to accept One by one The cattle count grew She never failed her practice It kept her well at body and mind All the prayers All the love All those years of endless hope brought back her son Bodily weak but strong within Came back to his loving mother and cattle... a double dozen.
                                      Shree420  I sketched this picture years ago on the computer. Started out with a black canvas and then worked out the whites. Its a very easy technique. :)  

Short Stories- Butterflies

This is more of an essay . Was supposed to be a Woman's Day post . :) Butterflies Lalitha with one year old Gowri clinging on to her took small but fast steps towards the house she visited ritually for the past 5 years. She was the sun’s clock, for as she knocked at the large gold painted iron gates of ‘Ashanivas’, the sun leisurely rose. She placed the bag of freshly strung jasmine on the gate and hurriedly left. Her husband and four school going kids would wake up and demand their morning breakfast of yesterday’s rice soaked in water flavored with green chilly, before they dispersed for their busier day. Shantha nodded as lalitha smiled and said “See you tomorrow sister” before she took the turn. They had no time to have their 5 minute gossip session today. Shantha took the cover, opened the gate walked across the dew coated grass, placed the flowers and the milk cover she brought in the blue and white jute bag in front of the large teak door. After this she had to go to th

When cricket happens...

the boys are busy and are attracted to the same sex for company the girls are busy feeding them with intervals of  tea and bites ( we hate it!) otherwise the girls are just catching up on gossip at peace ( we love it) the roads are empty the mannequins dressed in team attire Ind Vs Pak equates to be more than just a game but the sales people at shops go blank the eardrum receives endless streams of commentaries the office is as silent as the match is the Alt and Tab keys suffer if your status msg doesn't have cricket you are ignored every advertisement has to feature a cricketer the remote has a single owner the whole nation's patriotic veins pop-out PS. While my whole world is watching cricket I type....All the hype never gets to me...After all its just another game!  UPDATE: Well yes I am here to tell you that I got bitten by the Cricket bug. It was a great match afterall. The Sri Lankans were equally deserving and that made the win more meaningful. For on

The End

Death is such a scary thing Especially when it happens around you One of our clients passed away two days back There have been many deaths in the last few months They were all equally shocking So sudden I cannot console any person who has lost a loved one I don't believe in such consolations The loss is a loss and nobody can live the same after the loss Ps. Death is something only humans have to deal with...Why God Why?

Dependence

However much we try to to be independent there are times when we need somebody. True. But in my case there's more to it. I am not the independent type. I have been brought up to be very dependent. I am still the laughing stock of many of my friends because I need to go through a whole range of 'sanctions' before I can do anything. Sometimes it is irritating when you think " Hey I am 30+ and still need to inform people on what I want to do and am doing." No not sometimes...lately I have been thinking about this most of the time.But I don't have the drive to break free. Its rather comfortable when you have people around whom you can blame your decisions or inabilities on. That's exactly what stops me from being independent. I do envy people who work around doing all they want to and much much more. I realise that I can be one of them very easily if and only if I break the strong self constructed cage I have put myself into.Initially this cage was created

Where am I heading?

I just read a friend's blog about feeling unsettled. I feel very much the same. Except that she was settled but felt that there was something more she needed to do and I am totally unsettled in every angle that exists. Home front : We are still looking out for an apartment. With so many requirements in mind its impossible to get one. We vacated our flat last week and dumped all our stuff at Amma's place. Office front: Haven't been doing much of good work lately. Everything I do is either pending approval, gets scrapped or is totally wrong. I have been getting frowns and complaints from all sides. Health front: Put on oodles of weight. The discomforts that come with the flab are taking over my once energetic life.I remain a silent spectator,my mouth filled with food always. Clutter here, Clutter there, Clutter Clutter Everywhere! Ps. Wonder where to start ?? *A totally confused me  

Systems and Relationships

Parents -Kids In western countries children are independent even before they finish their primary education. They earn and support themselves at a very early age. They move out or the parents request them to move out of the house and find their own place when they are 18. Why doesn't this happen in India? Here the parents plan for their child's future and save for the kids. They live their whole lives building their child's future.Is this right? My Opinion - The western trend is good in a way.But there should not be any alienation. I feel the child has to be independent but has to grow up within the network of the family bonds. The concept of the family must not be lost.The parents need to understand to live their life to the fullest so that they don't expect too much from their children and vice versa. Family System Ages ago when families were large the joint family system did work. The wives maintained the home and children while the husbands worked and managed

Stories - All Aflame

All Aflame Preetham and the whole of his territory was being tormented by the fiercely shining cruel summer sun. As he stood there gazing at the source of discomfort he pulled out his arsenal one by one. It was going to be a tough day.   He knew his administrative center would be sweltering but it was his childhood blaze to be a ruler. His region may have been minuscule but what mattered was the power he possessed. The authority he held. He was proud to be who he was and it showed in his apparel and his mannerisms. The well maintained moustache he often fiddled with when he caught an offender contrasted his receding hairline that exposed his glaring scalp. His crown offered some cosmetic balance. One wondered whether his expansive limbs made his tummy seem fuller than full or the restrictive paunch made his limbs look overworked.              If it was not for him, his jurisdiction would be in total chaos. Everyday he directed his wards on how and when they were to proceed to t

Stories - Kasthuri Bhai

Kasthuri Bhai The door bell rang as I expected it to at half past eleven. I lay there on my bed unsurprised by the new entrant into my overcrowded room. The day was almost half done but my mundane chores remained undone. She was preparing for the next thirty minutes of fun. At least that’s what she called it. While her concoction was being warmed she changed from her vivid attire to a rather uninteresting costume. In the meantime I reluctantly undressed myself baring my over sized engraved self to the chilly breeze that managed to gush through the door that let her in. She banged the door shut and barged towards me with her potion. Drawing her hands together she bowed before me. For any other person the whole procedure might be relaxing but for me it was an ordeal. She made it a point to plait all my muscles and weave my nerves. Her hands caressed every single atom I was composed of. She proved her years of practice on my flesh. I was happy when she splashed boiling

Pondy Trip - Part 1

Am sorry its almost going to be a year. I just fished this out from the innumerable incomplete blogs I hold .... We are a batch of 5 school friends who don’t miss a chance to meet . Our last meet proves how much fun we have when we are together. This time we decided our husbands should meet too. And then it all began…. Innumerable calls to decide on the who,when where what how … Who: P with husband N and twins V and N; A with husband Pr and kid Ak; U with husband B and kid N and G ( that’s me J ..) with husband M and kid Achu…C couldn’t make it since she has a school to run When : May 1 st …since it was a holiday …we had a whole weekend before us Where : Pondicherry …because our men wanted long drives What : We were to have fun, enjoy the sea at a resort and visit places in pondy How: 2 cars would be enough …M and N would drive….later Pr decided to drive too…so it was 3 cars so that P and family could comfortably come in a car The Plan : To leave city early Saturday morning, h

Just an Update

Acha not feeling well after his trip to Kerala. He came back with a bad allergy and is feeling all drained out. Amma has a bad cold and coff but still has the routine work of feeding 5 mouths and setting their day for them MIL is sick and we don't know what is wrong. Hoping a few tests get things clear and she can get the right medication. Achu has a coff and cold . Maybe from Amma. He is enjoying his sick leave.  At work things are pretty hectic with a few deadlines cleared at the moment. Our flat needs to be cleaned up and a million chores pending  M and I shuttle between check ups, school, office and homes A sort of unrest prevails all around Its really peaceful to get into bed and dream through the night....in a different world M and I still find small reasons to smile about ...but all of a sudden things seem not quite good God's presence is felt ... Prayers Prayers Prayers Ps. There are so many decisions to take during the next few weeks....Have our fingers cro

Aadukalam for Anniversary

The first anniversary 7 years back was spent at mayajaal. The movie we could watch was " Devathaiyey Kandein" starring Danush and Sreedevi. We didn't have a choice. So on the 7th anniversary we decided to watch a movie starring Danush.This time it was "Aadukalam." How it all started.... The morning began with a few wishes from relatives,cousins and friends frantically wanting to know what we were going to do and what M gave me and I gave him.The calls and messages came ONLY to me because M seemed oblivious until breakfast when I  had to mention the difference between yesterday and today. GOD! Me :I received a lot of condolences today.... M: Huh! for what    Me: For having tied the knot M: Oh! Today-a And then we left to office.... 11.30 am - normal 12.30 pm - normal 1.30pm - very normal 2.00pm - hungry so called M and Acha to leave for lunch Driver left early since he had some work and so M and I drove back home Me: Hey shall we go for a movi

Aditi Devo Bava

When we have guests/relatives at home its normal work plus Paying the extra bills - Acha's work Organising their appoinments around the city -Acha's work Have to plan the cooking /ordering for the day - Amma's work Set up the rooms - Amma's work Clean , clean and clean - Amma's work So do I enjoy having guests/relatives...sure because amma does all the hard work and I end up taking short breaks from work - The size depends on the workload and funload visiting malls..old and new - the only chance I get to explore them catching a movie or two - the planning happens before they land here. Am a total movie freak...and I love the intervals too chit chatting,gossiping,solving world problem from the couch - My vocal chords never give up or in visiting other relatives known and unknown - refreshments for the mind and tummy shopping with and for them - love it having extra servings of junk food - love it to the power infinity... Strenuous? Absolutely :) The y

I resolve to....

be a better human be a better daughter be a better mother be a better friend be a better worker be a better student be a better wife In that order...what needs most effort to the one that needs least...'cause am the 'bestest' wife M can have ;b ( Modesty RIP!) Ps. Not getting to the specifics am I?....I will I will....

2010 and 2011

Happy New year fellow bloggers A new year is something we all look forward to To do new things To change routines To grow 2010 - sped past - brought in trouble as Acha fell ill - gave lovely moments with friends and family - did a course on the professional front - made achu boy begin to think like a man with the needed doses of being the lovable child he is - M and I had our share of tiffs and cuddles - Is over and am blessed with the people and things I love around me safe and tight 2011 - I wish to be as happy it started of to be - Health - Happiness - Peace - Less of frowns...No frowns are impossible - More of smiles PS. Specific targets for 2011 will be updated.